Unfucking With a Chronic Illness or Chronic Pain

Many members of Team UfYH are living with chronic conditions, mental illness, learning disabilities, physical limitations, and any number of factors that may make traditional “cleaning” difficult. They’ve shared their methods of working within those limitations and still making progress on their homes. The key points, for the most part, are: •Do what you can. If you can only manage five minutes...

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“Cleaning Triggers My Anxiety”

Right now, you’re looking at the big picture. For a little while, you need to try to narrow your focus a little bit. Focus on just one surface, or one small area. Take before and after pictures, even if you don’t share them. Sometimes we can’t see the progress we’ve made when we’re in the middle of it. Give yourself time to get used to the changes. See if you can pinpoint how you feel when you...

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“I Can’t Separate Cleaning From Negative Associations or Feelings of Abuse”

As always, please remember that I am not a qualified expert on anything. For starters, you’re already miles ahead of the game because of your level of self-awareness about your situation. You can identify and separate out the factors that are contributing to how you feel about cleaning. You have a desire to improve your mindset about cleaning, and to remove the negative associations you have...

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The Depression/Messy House Cycle

When I first started Unfuck Your Habitat, it was a housekeeping blog very squarely aimed at lazy people. Mostly because I am one. As the blog gained momentum, though, I started hearing from people who were using the fundamentals to help them battle through something more serious than laziness: mental illness. More specifically, depression. Now, I’m no stranger to depression. I don’t make it a...

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Let’s Talk About Habits For a Minute

SO MANY PEOPLE have done serious major unfucking lately, and IT’S AWESOME. I couldn’t be prouder. But once that initial high wears off, you need to focus on maintenance, or you’re going to end up right back where you started. I have a short list of things that, if you can make them habits, will prevent about 75% of the unfuckery that got you to the bad place to begin with. Bonus: most of these...

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About Excuses

Whenever it’s time to talk about cleaning, a startling number of people are quick to reply with their “reasons” why they can’t do that particular thing. You’re not trying to convince me, or your fellow unfuckers. You’re rationalizing to yourself why you won’t take a step in a different direction. And honestly, for things like making your bed, in the time it takes you to type out your...

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Asking for Help

So, you’ve realized that your mess is too big to handle on your own. Maybe you’re dealing with mental illness, chronic illness, chronic pain, or another obstacle, and you simply can’t do it by yourself. That’s fine. First, congratulations on recognizing and taking the steps you need to get healthy. That’s huge and should be celebrated on its own. Second, an absolutely...

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“I Think My Home is Beyond Help”

Maybe you think your house is too far gone. There’s no way you can implement any of this because it seems hopeless. This is not true. You are not beyond help, and neither is your home. You need to start slowly. Major changes too quickly are not going to be helpful or healthy for you here. I’m going to give you some steps, but do not try to do them all at once. It may be a day or a week or...

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“How Do I Keep the Place Clean When No One Will Help Me?”

You’re asking this because you’re invested in the unfucking process, and the people who you share space with are not on board. It could be roommates/flatmates, spouses, children, parents, significant others, whoever. The point is that you’re cleaning up and they aren’t. I love bullet points, so I’m going to bullet point the important stuff in this situation. •You cannot change...

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